How I got over my Fears — for you who worries a lot

Living in fear is what separates us from being happy and from fulfilling our dreams and goals. If we allow it to settle and stay in our hearts, we would not be able to live each day of our lives fully.

I had a lot of fears growing up, coupled with self-doubts and insecurities. There was a time I wished I had a stronger personality just like other people,then it might have been better for me. I always thought about what people will think. I always thought I might not be good enough! And I fear I will not be able to do amazing things because I was just too scared.

Being too negative is the worst thing I did and you could ever do to yourself. I think what gives us this feeling is the way we think in this Modern World. We focus on things that is not even gonna matter 3 or 5 years from now and we loose ourselves trying to find happiness on temporary things/people. What we lack is acceptance, acceptance on things out of your control like death or people’s opinion about you and your life. Do not think everyone will like you for who you are and do not try or even ask them to. Just be YOU. People misjudged people because we are perfectly imperfect humans who react based on emotions, feelings,circumstances, social acceptance and etc. When you have that fear staring right into your face, you just have to face it. Don’t dodge it cos’ it might come back right at you stronger. I know, it is HARD because I have been there and I will be there again but I just think that God will never give me/anyone challenges in life if He knows I/we cannot overcome it. So, trust in Him and trust in yourself and for sure, you can do amazing things in life!

I wish I knew better growing up but I never regretted the things I did and decisions I have made so far in my life. It took to me to a place which I can start living my life and fulfilling my dreams. And most importantly, it gave me the opportunity to give back to my family and I am the most happiest when I know I am making them happy. So you guys, live out your dreams! Do not let your fears set you back. Always believe in yourself and to Him cos He will always provide.

Love, Dian ๐Ÿ’‹

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The good & not so good things about living and working in an Island –My personal thoughts๐ŸŒด๐ŸŒŠ

Who haven’t dreamed of going in a 3-day or 5-day vacation to a Beautiful Island? I think most of us right? ๐Ÿ™ŒSome of you might have Maldives, Bahamas, Palawan & Boracay in the Philippines,the Beaches in Australia, Florida, Hawaii or all the other incredible island destinations in the world in your Bucket list.

WHAT THE BEACH CAN DO TO YOU
According to science, spending time at the beach changes the way your brain reacts to the environment, making you happier, more relaxed and full of energy. All in all, the blue space affects your brain in four ways. Water is the natural healer of stress. That’s due to all the negative ions found in water. (Click the image above to read an Article about ‘What the beach can do to your brain’. It is definitely a good read!)

THE GOOD AND NOT SOO GOOD THINGS

The good thing about living and working in an island are:

  1. I always have the opportunity to swim in the famous turquiose water of Maldives everyday, if I want to. ๐ŸŒŠ
  2. I can see breathtaking sunrise and sunsets by the ocean everyday ๐ŸŒ„๐ŸŒ…
  3. I can hear the sound of waves crashing to the shore like music to my ears. And some dolphins if I’m lucky ๐Ÿ‹
  4. I am learning about the Maldivian culture from my local colleagues. From a few words, to counting and alphabet.But not only the local culture but also cultures from the different nationalities living and working here.It is definitely fun learning about them!
  5. The salary is not so bad too! Since you are living in an island, you won’t spend much on buying clothes and shoes and most specially food, like I do before. As a staff here, food and accomodation is provided and the temptation to go to malls and shop won’t really be a problem(except for online shopping if you are into it!)

The not so good things about living and working in an island are:

  1. Living in an island would also mean you would have to get used of the quiet and down times. When it is not busy, the time can run really slow.
  2. You have too much time to spare and not much to do. Either you sleep or watch movies or kdrama series in my case.
  3. You have to live with the fact that seeing the city, eating some food you might want to eat or is craving to eat(like pork meat or fast foods)will have to wait until you get your vacation. Unless you ask to eat in one of the restaurant, which will be fine as well.
  4. And the heart quenching part is missing your loved ones, your family & friends, back home.

HOW TO COPE WITH THE NOT SO GOOD THINGS

The things I do to cope with the not so good things here are:

  • I read a book. I made sure to bring at least 2 books to read. I might finish reading both in a few weeks but i don’t mind reading them again! But if you go on a vacation or decided to come and work here, that is something you might add to pack with you. The 2 books I brought with me are: The Alchemist-Paulo Coelho and After You by Jojo Moyes.
  • I hang out/talk with my colleagues whenever I can. I got used to hanging out with the same people/circle for the past few years so being here and having no one I know was a big change for me.But as the saying goes, “Change is the only constant thing in this world”, so I thought I’d have to be flexible and adaptive in order to have a happy resort life. By talking with different people, you also learn a little bit about their lives and that is something I consider as a good thing also.
  • Plan your vacation to a country which you’ve been wanting to visit. You would have all the time you need here!So, you can plan ahead the vacation you want and that includes saving and researching about good & affordable accomodations and places to see & visit. This would definitely inspire you and give that fire you needed when you feel down and uninspired. As for me, I am planning to visit Hongkong this October! (*Fingers-crossed*)
  • Video-call your loved ones! For me this is the best-est, most effective solution to cope up with loneliness here in the Island. The thought of my loved ones is something that keeps me going everyday. An hour or even just 30-mins of video-call would definitely change my mood for the day! I am sure all the people working away from their family can relate.
  • Plan some outdoor activities like swimming, fishing or diving. Outdoor activities will definitely be fun. It feels like you are on vacation too! Fishing and Diving is something I am planning & looking forward to do as well. ๐Ÿ˜Š

In conclusion, our lives would always contain some good and bad things. The thing is, the not so good things never last forever! Better days will come and you have to believe it. I hope you enjoyed reading this blog! Don’t stop dreaming ๐Ÿ˜˜

Don’t forget to leave your comments cos’ I would love to hear them โค

My Journey — After a month in Maldives

A few months back, I only dreamed of working in one of the resorts in the Maldives. The Hospitality World is soo much different from my previous line of work which was Banking & Finance, but somehow, I was drawn to this beautiful place after I visited it once on May 2018 and it was that moment I realized I wanted to live & work here. I started looking for administrative or accounting/finance related job ads in one of the top visited job sites for Maldives. I submitted CVs to as many resorts I can find. I got a few interesting replies but nothing that really succeeded. But as the saying goes, โ€œtry and try until you succeedโ€, so after months of sending CVs to different resorts online, I finally got that one reply I wanted. You are Hired! I was extremely happy & thankful. To God, most importantly, and to my Aunt-in law as well. Hereโ€™s why!

  • My Aunt-in Law has been living & working in the Maldives for more than 5 years! She loves to travel and has really been the one who supported me all through out this journey together with my Uncle. She gave me references, and the help I really need from my application up until now. So, I guess you can say it was a bit easier for me because of my aunt.

BUT HEREโ€™S HOW TO APPLY:

The best option for expats would be to apply online just like what I did. You can check out this online job site: https://www.job-maldives.com and this site would be really helpful and updated. Some sites to check out are: https://jobsicle.mv , https://www.catererglobal.com, https://career-maldives.com/

Second best option would be: going to the resorts website and sending an application through there. I am sure all the resorts will always check their site.

And third best option: not all of us know someone who works in Maldives, buuuut if you know someone, a friend or a family member who are working in Maldives, you can also ask them for vacancies and give them your CV. Referrals really work!

VISA APPLICATION:

Normally, the Visa Application would take a month but sometimes there might be issues that would arise and would cause your Visa to be denied and they(the resort) have to apply again. My visa application was not smooth at all. The government was stricter on Visa Application of Expats and it was also because of the New Government and some issues they had regarding Expats. My visa was rejected for 3 times but after applying for the 4th Time it was approved.
Tip:The best thing to do is to complete all your requirements, and check everything before sending it. Always submit the colored and original copies if possible.
Wait for a few weeks for the approval and then you are off!

PACKING YOUR LUGGAGE
Since you would be living and staying here for years,make sure to pack your essentials, enough clothes, accessories, shoes/sandals and most importantly do not forget your passport and your visa permit.That is the most important thing!
Tip: Most of the days you will just wear your normal clothes,be sure to bring some cullotes and knee length shorts because that is one thing i regretted not bringing with me(we have to respect their culture).There mรฌght be resort events or dinners, so better be ready and pack some nice dresses as well.

HOW TO LIVE WITH DIFFERENT NATIONALITIES

More than 50% of our Resorts Employees are locals. Maldivians are very friendly, nice and would always be ready to give you a helping hand. They are also family-oriented and religious. While you are here you have to learn, adapt and respect their culture. One thing I am having fun learning is their local language called Dhivehi. So here are few words that you can learn as well.
Koba- Where
Koba Kine-How are you?
Kike-What
Ranggalu-Im good/Im fine
Loabi- an endearment which means love
Inggada-Let’s go
It is definitely fun to learn new things so don’t be afraid to try ๐Ÿ™‚ Right now I am learning how to count and how to write in Dhivehi! Cool right?
In a resort, there would be different nationalities from all over the world. The key to having a good resort life is to just be friendly and respectful to everyone. And you would not only gain respect but also make some friends along the way!

LEARN AND WORK BY HEART
I am difinitely learning a lot of things here! Not only work related but other things like people’s culture, food, other resorts and many more to come. If you want to be able to do good with your work and have a good relationship with your colleagues then work by heart and don’t forget to enjoy! The best thing about the Maldives for me is everyday i get to see the beautiful turquoise ocean, breathtaking sunsets, some dolphins if im lucky and it makes you realize how beautiful the world can be.

After a month, there were days i wanted to go home and see my family. I know it was too early but sometimes when you get that feeling it’s hard. So make sure to occupy yourself or think of the reason why you are here in the first place. That would make you feel better! Love the days, even the bad ones. Live in the present and always believe in yourself.

I hope this blog was useful and i hope u enjoyed reading it. Don’t forget to leave your comments or thoughts! I would love to hear them ๐Ÿ™‚

Hey,This is Me!

Hola! First of all, Thank you for visiting my blog ๐Ÿ™‚ Now that you are here, let me introduce myself. My name is Dian(as you can see in the title ๐Ÿ˜‰) & I am 23 years old currently living and working in the Maldives. I have a lot of spare time after work so what better way to spend it wisely by writing about my life here in Maldives!Also,sharing my day to day thoughts and experiences to all of you who might want to know how it is to live & work here and of course, I do want to share the amazing sunset views i see everyday, the beautiful island and the local culture. I hope you will enjoy reading. And don’t forget to leave your comments, I would love to hear them >3

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. โ€” Izaak Walton

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